TRUTH #2-YOUR SINGLE SEASON IS NOT AN INTERMISSION
After I graduated from college and failed to fall into the “Ring by Spring” category, I felt like my life was entering a sort of holding period…kind of like a giant doctor’s waiting room. I would remain there, playing on my phone and reading old magazines, until just the right man came bursting through the door calling my name. (I suppose carrying a clipboard, winking, and beckoning with a charming smile, “I can cure your loneliness baby. I’m just what the Great Physician ordered!”) Though this was an admittedly fabulous daydream, the adoption of this “waiting” mindset was a GIANT mistake.
God is a perfect Storyteller. Every plot twist, every angle, and every outcome has been carefully weighed and considered before insertion into the narrative of our lives. As King David said, “You saw me before I was born. Every day of my life was recorded in your book. Every moment was laid out before a single day had passed.” ((2)) Remove the “single” chapter from our story, and the whole plot line collapses. The wannabe Princess kisses the wrong frog. Cinderella hasn’t grown big enough to fit into her glass slipper. The hero didn’t acquire the skills necessary to slay the bad guy and the whole city is overrun by aliens. (You get what I’m saying)
As Christine Caine puts it, “The truth is that we each have twenty-four hours every day, the exact amount of time we need to fulfill our purpose and destiny.” ((3))
Though you may not understand the significance of your current circumstances, be assured that God does, and He thinks what you’re going through is worth it. Nothing about you is not an accident, and the single season you find yourself in is not an accident. In Christ, absolutely everything has a purpose and is a crucial part of God’s overall mission for your life.
We can’t know the specific details of God’s storyline for our lives, but we CAN know, “That in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose…” (Romans 8:28) ((4))
If we’re not careful, we can fall prey to the single season’ s temptation to get “stuck.” When we think our purpose is wrapped up solely in becoming a wife and a mother, we can become confused and disoriented when this doesn’t happen right away. The meantime can seem like a pointless blank space suited only for the twiddling of thumbs and questions can like, “What do I do now?”
There is nothing worse than feeling purposeless. If this is you, I have some GREAT NEWS. Christ came to rescue us from a meaningless existence. As I said before, although we can’t know the specific details of His plan for us, we CAN know and act upon His ultimate ambition for our lives!
Directly following the above verse, Christ tells us exactly what this purpose that He is “working all things together for” looks like…“For those God foreknew he also predestined to be conformed to the image of his Son, that he might be the firstborn among many brothers and sisters.” (Romans 8:29)
More than He wants you to become a blushing bride, housewife, or soccer mom, God wants to make you like Jesus. Real success or failure in this earthly existence does not hinge so much on what we do, but on who we become. Amazingly, when we focus on this beautiful, mysterious, becoming…the doing always naturally falls into place.
Remember this…the ultimate purpose of your life as a child of God never changes. Married or unmarried, “quiverfull” or childless, your ultimate goal is to know Jesus and to make Him known. Don’t let your current season distract you from your calling!
God never writes a season of inactivity into the believer’s life plan. We are ALWAYS called to be actively pursuing the face of Christ!
More than anything else, God desires to use this time to grow in intimacy and oneness with you. DON’T MISS HIM because you are wishing you are somewhere else. It would be FAR MORE TRAGIC for you to miss a love relationship with the Living God, than for you to miss a love relationship with your earthly prince charming.
The defining love relationship of your life, both now and in eternity, will ALWAYS be your relationship with Jesus Christ.
I would not trade the intimacy that I gained with Christ during my single season for anything in the world.
Further Reading and Resources:
1) Truth #1, “You are NOT a failure.”
2) Read more about God’s intimate awareness of our every action and emotion…Psalms 139
3) More about “Making Every Second Count” by Christine Caine.
4) Read more about the magnificent the love of God and His constant working in our lives…Romans 8